LGTBQ dating

Am I ever going to find someone like me?

Think straight dating is hard? Dating can be even harder for many young people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans or
questioning (LGBTQ)!

If you’re LGBTQ and ready to date, you probably have lots of questions on your mind. How do you find people to date? What if you haven’t come out yet? Do you want other people to know that you’re a couple? How will you deal with the reactions you might get?

Hello? Anybody?

It can be difficult to meet other LGBTQ teens, but here are some places to start:

  • Friends. Do you have any friends who could introduce you to single LGBTQ people?
  • School and community. Is there a LGBTQ club or community at your school? Try joining it if you’re looking to meet other LGBTQ people. Some schools might not have these communities, but keep looking. Go to your local community centre and ask about LGBTQ support groups or clubs. Whether or not you meet someone who becomes your boyfriend or girlfriend, visiting these places can still be a great way of finding other young people to talk to about your experiences.
  • Online. Some LGBTQ people find each other online. If you find someone you’d like to meet in person, don’t forget about your safety. Never meet someone from online alone, or without telling a trusted adult first.

Coming out as a couple

So you’ve finally found someone you’d like to date. That is huge. For some LGBTQ couples, going public with your relationship can be just as challenging as finding each other. You may find you need support from your friends, family, and other members of the LGBTQ community.

Some tips to make the process go more smoothly:

Talk about it

It’s good to check-in with your boyfriend or girlfriend to find out if you’re both on the same page when it comes to how “out” you want to be. Remember that coming out is a personal process that takes more time for some than others. Respect what you feel is best for yourself, and what the other
person wants too.

Reach out

Talk to other LGBTQ people about their experiences. Ask how they dealt with
any reactions from others, both positive
and negative.


Go slow

Coming out as a couple can take time and patience. You might want to try telling a few people that you’re in a relationship before you share it with the world. Prepare yourself for both positive and negative reactions, but focus on the positive ones.

Get help

If you’re unsure how to go public with your relationship, talk to a trusted adult in your life, like a family member, neighbour, teacher or guidance counsellor, or you can call Kids Help Phone at 1-800-668-6868
or chat with us when Live Chat is available.


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Last reviewed September 2013 by the Kids Help Phone Counselling Team

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