“I’m going to kill myself…”

This question was submitted to Kids Help Phone by a young person and answered by one of our professional counsellors.

Question

Im going to kill myself. . and i just want to know one thing, do you think that there are just some people who are just to far gone to be saved? be honest.

Answer

Hi there!! I really hope this post finds you safe and feeling at least a bit better than you did when you first wrote to us. I see this is your first time posting on this site. Welcome and I am VERY glad you came. I totally understand how difficult these feelings can be to talk about. I wonder………..Despite how low you were feeling when you wrote to us, what made you decide to come here? I am wondering if despite how strong your feelings have been, there is still a part of you who wants to heal from these feelings and start to feel better. I wonder if it’s not so much that you want to end your life……….It’s more that you want to end the pain that you are feeling. What do you think? I don’t know what things have led to you feeling this way. I am sure though they are pretty huge for you. Will you come back here and talk more with us about them? Maybe letting out your feelings will help you to begin to feel better. Maybe we can help you figure out some ways to actually begin feeling better. Would you be willing to give that a try? I really hope that you would. Please remember that we’re here 24/7 (by phone and by web) and that our line is totally confidential and anonymous. We are a safe place to share your thoughts. You asked me for an honest answer and here I go with it…….. (smile!!) I truly don’t believe that a person is too far gone to be saved, helped, supported or cared about. Not in the least. In fact, I can tell you honestly that I wouldn’t do this job if I believed that. On the other hand, I can totally understand how people could feel like they are so deep in a dark place that they can’t get out of it. That’s why getting support can make such a HUGE difference. If you aren’t feeling like things can ever get better, maybe it would be helpful for you to talk to someone who can help you to believe it. Does that make sense? I really hope that now that you’ve taken this step to reach out to us that you will continue to do it. We’re here for you, ok? And please know that we WON’T give up on you!!!! Take care of yourself!!

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