How to identify a safe adult

Do you need someone to talk to? A safe adult is someone who is accountable, respects your boundaries and doesn’t ask you to keep secrets from others. Speaking to a safe adult can help you feel listened to and decide on next steps.

There are many ways to identify a safe adult in your life. A safe adult is:

  • Thoughtful: the person actively listens to you and believes you when you tell them something.
  • Trustworthy: the person is dependable, a confidant and someone you feel comfortable talking to.
  • Respectful: the person is mindful and considerate of your feelings — and your boundaries.
  • Helpful: the person provides guidance and helps you find solutions to problems.
  • Caring: the person does what’s best for you, puts you first and cares about your mental and emotional well-being and physical safety.

Who is a safe adult in your life? A safe adult in your life may be a relative, friend, teacher, guidance counsellor or anyone else you feel comfortable with and can trust.

If you need a safe adult to talk to, you can always call a Kids Help Phone counsellor at 1-800-668-6868.


If you would like to know more about this topic, you can connect with a counsellor by phone or Live Chat.