Losing someone to suicide: How to grieve and heal
Losing someone to suicide can be heartbreaking. You may feel lost and unable to understand the decision that the person made. You may even feel angry at the person who died.
It’s common to feel like your world was turned upside down if someone in your life died by suicide. People who experience the loss of a loved one often share that it leaves them with so many questions and emotions. They can feel sadness, confusion, hurt, anger and despair.
After losing someone to suicide, people may experience nightmares, trouble focusing, and even have thoughts of suicide themselves. Every person reacts to death differently, and grieving is a process that takes time.
Some people also feel guilty – thinking they should have been able to stop the person or recognize the warning signs. You should know, when someone you care for dies by suicide, it’s never your fault. Try to remind yourself that no one is able to predict the future.
Grief is a very difficult experience. The pain of losing someone to suicide may surface in different ways. You may feel up one minute and down the next. Speaking to a counsellor can be a good way to work through your feelings. You can also reach out to a safe adult or call a Kids Help Phone counsellor at 1-800-668-6868.
You will never forget the person whom you lost. As time passes, you may start to feel better, and this is OK. It’s not that you’re leaving the person behind — it’s that it’s time to move on.
Will this hurt forever?
No, this will not hurt forever, but it’s common to think that it will. Take the time that you need and understand that you’ll have good days and bad days. Hanging out with friends, exercising, writing and doing other activities that you enjoy will help. Be patient with yourself — it will get better.